You arrive at a hostel, scan the surroundings, then claim your room/bunk/floor space. There’s a few people in the common area chatting in groups of two’s and above. Once your overdue for a wash belongings are stowed, just sit there and read a book and wait for someone to say hello. Ok fine, still on my own. Supplement with a couple of beers and go old school with a game of solitaire (with actual cards). A little better, some wary inquiries to see if you’d like to turn that into a game of shit-head (best card game ever).
Yes you reply.
I know for myself I’m a very shy person until I introduce myself. Once I do, just try and stop me. The first part is tough though. I find the first step the hardest, the next hundred, a walk in the park. What’s your ice-breaker move for the new space on the next leg of the adventure?
I have normally relied on a group of friends for my back-up, but recent years have seen me try my own luck abroad for a variety of reasons. What a change for the best. Self reliance is amazing. The pay off, incredible. Obscure and unexpected adventures are my drug, well, besides the real thing. This is not new for most and a corny saying at it’s best, but the key word on any trip is “yes”. Do you want to come visit these temples? Sure. Would you like to drink this home made wine with a scorpion in it? Why not. How about come release some baby turtles into the ocean? Obvs YES. Perhaps a mystery adventure in my friends tuk tuk in Siem Riep to an unmarked army base to let off a few high calibre rounds? Where do I sign.
The movie “Yes man” with Jim Carey, is highly recommended before any adventure.
Where has the word yes taken you recently? Do you find it easy to mix with people in new setting or is some courage required to get things going?
It’s interesting and a little bit surprising how much other travelers are open to unsolicited interactions with other fellow travelers. I mean, that’s the point of travel right? Meet other people, create connections and forge new memories. Everyone is in the same mindset generally, so be the first one to make the move. At the very least, you made it easier for someone else to break the ice, and myriad new pathways are opened up on both your journey and the journey of other’s. Think of it as a service to the world community.
Keep up the good work.